Thursday, April 13, 2006

You live and you learn. Easier said than done.

I interviewed with a biotech company that I really want to work for on 3 different occasions for a summer internship with 3 different hiring managers.

I got nothing.

I politely asked why.

2 of them ignored my email, one of them was nice enough to call, but did not answer my question. You can read about it in my last post.

Yesterday a friend of mine told me that out of the blue, a hiring manager at the same biotech company called and asked if she wanted a summer internship. She said yes, he said you got it.

Just like that.

She got a job just like that.

Life sucks. Life is unfair. I know that. I've said that. But to actually experience how much it sucks.... I can't tell you it doesn't hurt.

People say that on average a person usually go through 3 or 4 interviews before they got an offer. I've been through 8 interview. All of the interviewers said that I was great, that they were really impressed by me etc etc. So technically I should have 2 offers.

I have none.

I'm starting to think that I was lied to.

People say that usually if you're the first one being interviewed, chances are you're not gonna get hired. Something about managers usually don't think they should hire the first person they talk to or something like that.

I have 4 hiring managers told me that I was the first person they interviewed.

Life is unfair. Deal with it.

Easier said than done.

I received an offer letter from a small oil company located right outside of Chicago, IL. The pay is lower than most, and they don't provide housing or transportation. Not even the air fare. After taxes, plane tickets, accomodations, transportation and daily expenses, I will most probably ended up with about $1000 in my pocket.

Originally I was hoping to make enough money this summer to go to the orthodontist. Since my insurance doesn't cover beautification works, I need to pay for it myself. On average it costs about $5000 to $6000.

I can't afford it.

Life sucks. Deal with it.

Easier said than done.

Much easier said than done.

And somehow, along the way, I managed to find an inner peace.

It's strange how when you start seeing things from another perspective.


With a bottle of Corona Light on a beach with no cell phone signal, although I don't drink beer.

Peace is a good thing.

Sometimes, peace is all that's needed.

Friday, April 07, 2006

It's never ending.

I had a presentation yesterday, and it didn't go well. In fact, it's the worst presentation ever in the history of presenting. The professor had something to pick and criticize on every single slide. And it's not what he said, but the way he said it that makes it that much worse. He basically thinks that we are so fucking retarded that we can't even get the easiest thing right without saying it. And because the cheap machine that we used to run the experiment didn't perform really well, which resulted in funky and inaccurate data, he now thinks that we were lying to him in our presentation because "he's never seen any data like ours in 25 years."

At the end, he wouldn't even let me finish the presentation, saying that he needs to discuss our many problems with another professor. I got so mad afterwards that I had tears in my eyes.

Then later, I got another rejection from an employer. She called to tell me that. She said that they were all really impressed with my interview, and so she is forwarding my resume around to other hiring managers. She didn't tell me why I didn't get the job. So I asked, "is there any particular reasons why I'm not the most suitable candidate for this job?" She said "Well we were all very impressed with your interview. So what I'm doing is I'm forwarding your resume to other hiring managers in other departments and tell them that you've already been interviewed, your background check is clear and that you're definitely a desired candidate to work here."

That's the answer she gave me when I asked her why I didn't get the job.

She wouldn't even tell me.

Am I that worthless?

Can anybody please tell me where is the humor in my life lately? I'm desperately needing some right now, before I consider killing myself.

Wednesday, April 05, 2006

I think I'm back for the moment.

Life sucks right now.

Looking back at my posting last few postings, I am shocked that I'm still not on Zoloft.

What the hell happened to me?

A few weeks ago I had this constant headache and I've never experienced anything like it before. I thought I had cancer or brain aneurysm or something. But as I was picturing myself dying and all, the feeling was oddly peaceful, like I was ready to go, like there's nothing here to keep me. I know, I'm a selfish mother fucker.

So I went to the doctor, and he did all this tests, including massaging my scalp and neck and shoulder. No, he's not gay, although I thought he was gay at first, but then he said something about his wife. So no he's not gay. At the end of the examination he concluded that my headache was mostly likely due to stress. I told him that I wasn't under any stress. He told me that many people don't feel stressed out when they're in fact, stressed out. And having a headache is a way your body is telling you that something's not right and you gotta change something.

Well then, apparently I'm not dying.

So last week was spring break, and I spend the entire week visiting DC, Philly and NY. And I guess the doctor was right, because after the trip, my headache was gone. Apparently I was extremely stressed out.

Was I stressed out?

I don't think so.

But the fact is, I am.

Spiritually and mentally, I am slowly evolving. I'm turning 23 next month, and I guess my biological clock is ticking. I want to settle down. I want a relationship. But you know what the say about love and relationship? Love is like a butterfly, you can't catch it, you gotta let it come to you. Which is such a bitch! Admittedly I am not the best looking guy. In fact, I don't think I'm very cute at all. I don't have all the pre-requisites to survive in this harsh gay world. I mean, c'mon, let's admit it. Sex is easy. Anything more than that? Don't even think about it. I'm not cute, I have pimpley face and crooked teeth, I am skinny like a stick and I don't have the "required" body shape. What's worse, I have backacne. So to sum it up, I look like shit. Literally. Inner beauty? Who the fuck cares about that when you look like somebody hit you with a shovel when you're a kid?

As you can imagine, looking like shit is slowly but surely doing "great" things to my self esteem. It's currently at an all time low, just like Bush's approval rating. I don't like myself when I look in the mirror. When I was in NY, I went to a gay bar in Chelsea. Long story short, nobody wanted to dance with me, a guy told me very nicely that he's not interested at all, there's a male hooker at the bar and even he's not interested in me. To top things off, the girl that I went with gave her phone number to the only straight guy there. We were in a fucking gay bar and she got hit on, asked to dance while I got absolutely nothing at all.

That night ended with me wailing in her arms on a footstep somewhere in Chelsea. She has no idea why I cried.

Not too long ago I posted an ad on craigslist. I got 2 great responses, and I felt partially connected to them just by reading their emails. So I penned 2 equally great replies and we exchanged pictures and I never hear from them again.

Man, I really am ugly, aren't I?

I am not a lucky person. I have never been lucky my entire life. I am extremely pessimistic. I always turn good things into bad things so that when the good things evetually turn into shitty things, I won't feel too bad about it. That's my philosophy. In NY I waited in line trying to get lottery tickets to Wicked for 3 times, and I guess you can tell if I have won any.

I'm graduating at the end of the year. So I'm actively looking for internships for this summer. Predictably, I am getting as many rejections as interviews. I am starting to doubt my academic abilities. The reasons that I've gotten so far was that my grades were not good enough, I don't have enough experiences, I don't have strong enough background in biology, I can't work here permanently because I'm an international student etc etc.

In hindsight, I guess I was extremely stressed out. And the worse part is, there is no quick solutions to any of my problems. Well, I do have one solution that's giving me hope. I'm planning that when I start making money, I'm gonna have a plastic surgeon fix my teeth. And I'm also gonna spend a ton of money on personal trainers and diet supplement and dermatologists.

Don't judge me.

I have extremely low self esteem.